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Did your sexual relationship change with your partner after your radical hysterectomy ?

Share your thoughts on this often overlooked topic.

  1. I was terrified to start up again after surgery. I felt so altered and being I'm in my early 60's like my time had passed for intimacy. I was so wrong. I had to grieve the loss of my body parts...I have a ceremony that I repeat once in awhile where I write notes of thanks to those parts that would've killed me if intact, (my uterus and cervix, appendix). I write notes of thanks and gratitude for my two kids , burn them and then and bury them lovingly. I'd not grieved my menopause which came in my late 40's. I have better sex now that I ever had when I was still "whole". My partner is more than happy! I'm more than happy! Go slowly back and gain your confidence; make adjustments that you need and seek advice from your Practitioners if you need to. Their coolest advice was Coconut oil...(you can use it everywhere)

    1. Yes it has. My libido is no where to be found on somedays. Others days, my libido spikes! Overall it hasn't fully effected my relationship but it helps when your partner is loving and understanding.

      1. I hear you. 1 year later I am still leaning into how my body has changed. I'm so glad you have a great partner. Huge lift to have someone who is understanding.

      2. The journey of rediscovering ourselves is often more pleasant when we have those supports in our lives. Thank you for sharing. Best, Catherine (Advancedovariancancer.net Team Member)

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